I love my chapatis the same way I love love.
For those who make chapatis or have had a glimpse of people making chapatis, you know it’s a process. You start by assembling your ingredients or whatever you want to use. So, I’m not the type of people who put sugar when cooking chapati. This can resemble my love for sarcasm and roasting rather than sweet wordings when it comes to my love life.
I then start kneading the flour and its contents. I won’t lie, this used to be among my hardest bit of cooking. I used to ask my mum to do the kneading then I’d do the rest but she told me not to brag about cooking chapati if I couldn’t do it from the beginning to the end. Kneading requires skill. It requires patience. If you come out with a bad dough, your chapatis will end up hard or some would call them ‘mokoro’. To love, this seems like the talking stage. The part where you get to know someone in a better way. The part you also let them know you. The bit you not only learn by inquiring but also studying and observing. This stage requires patience. People will disappoint you. They will reveal parts of them you never thought of. If you both take your time and invest well, the dough will be smooth enough for rolling and thus a better relationship stage.
When my dough is ready and fine, I am ready to roll. The smooth dough makes rolling so easy. The reverse is true. I don’t know who decided chapatis should be circle but oh well. I roll my chapatis for my perfect kind of circle. I’m sure they don’t all get to be perfect circles but they get to be My Perfect circles. This is the same as being in a relationship and choosing what is perfect for both of you. In a world full of couple goals, you need to ascertain what is right for you. Don’t follow other people’s ideas of love to the letter and expect to attain fulfillment. Decide what works for you. Mold yourself to attain that and you will appreciate how perfect your chapattis are.
The next stage isn’t always interesting, at least not for me. Placing my circle chapattis on the pan is just stressful. I can’t remember any time I finished cooking chapatis without a few burn marks from the pan. Do I leave them there? No. I persevere to ensure the whole cooking process is complete. The fire stage could be the moments we call lows. The days the relationship isn’t a spark or fireworks or fun. The bad days. The angry days. The bankrupt days. The sick days. If you can’t get past this, you may not get to the eating stage.
You know what’s fun? Eating your chapatis. Knowing you put all your effort into making them how they turned out. If you didn’t like the outcome, you know what to do next time. If you skipped a stage, you can learn better. If you enjoyed, kudos you deserve it. Enjoy the relationship you worked for. If you don’t like how it came out to be, reevaluate what you skipped or overlooked. If you’re happy, make it better and better. Work for the type of relationship you want and enjoy all the processes. We will always eat chapatis as long as we are alive, just as we will always love and seek to be loved.
PS: I make good chapatis, imagine being my love *winks*
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